REACH. STRIVE. SHINE!

Reasoning, Justification

We are not who we were. We are not what we have done. We are who we are. Currently. Right now.

Through that lens any and all things we have done or persons we have been make perfect sense

Everything changes. We change. All the time. Just not when, how or why we may want to.

This article. Wow. Lays out the challenge of understanding the Self really, really well. I love the author's conclusions, and realize they mirror my own thinking, with one distinction - yes, humans exist in a state of duality. But, therefore, all that is required to resolve our self-help issues is more granular identification and analysis of the incredibly broad impacts and co-relative associations that occur in our non-conscious minds. Bearing in mind that I perceive our duality as:

consciousness - is continually programmed by our reactions and experiences. Interacts with us in our chosen language.

being programmed, it is therefore triggered, trigger-able

v.

"non-consciousness" - that which we are born as. Does not speak any language, to our great chagrin. Communicates via pictures and feelings

not necessarily sub consciousness but something akin to dark matter in the universe in being that which we do not yet understand

non-consciousness just ïs

My theory is that we have to use our non-consciousness to manage our consciousness more carefully. Introduce "business rules" that remove/override/re-train undesired programming; reaction. drama, unsuccessful coping methods. And gain the buy-in of the consciousness. With that, we could get really close to unstoppable.  !   Wow.   ?

Expand the consciousness' ability to receive the messages of our non-consciousness. Rebuild the operability of that communication path.

"... Paradise takes time"

Borderlines are often rejected for their intensity, their unclear and indirect path that mystifies non-Borderlines. So let's kick, end, or at least minimize this Borderline thing!!

Wild things do not suffer

Fear is the mind killer

Our lives/minds are not out to get us

Control what I can control

No one else has ever walked in my shoes / cannot make me anything

Play the long game! (Be strategically successful)

The answers always lay within

We reap what we sow

We are what we ARE

We are also what we are when we are stressed.

I forgive my past

Criticality, hatred, reaction, failure... they are just too easy

The sun will rise and my lungs will breathe. My fat brain will pump and my legs will ache to run

Doesn't it feel good to feel good?

Situational

I watched most of my family members destroy themselves one at a time with inappropriate coping mechanisms - alcohol, denial, ignorance, cruelty, bitterness, blame, willful ignorance, co-dependence, anger, violence, self-hatred.

I was almost destroyed by their inappropriate coping mechanisms.

I was trapped within my own and headed terrifyingly down.

I will not go their way.

I will figure out what healthy people do.



Context

It means what it means to each of us.

Because it's there.

Because we can.